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This website is in Memory of my Beautiful Daughter Shanna Renee Daugherty.Shanna passed away so suddenly From us on July the 12,2005.!Where do I Began ,about my angel.she came into my life in 2002 and made us the happiest of parents.We were told we could not have any more children an was  so happy when I FOUND OUT we would have another child.she was our angel from the start.Shanna was a bright &pretty little girl.with muh love to show.She never let you pass her hugs up.she was loved by so many.her Sister Cheyenne&her brother Brad..THERE was no one like her Pappy&gug."what she called her gram"we were so blessed to have her in our life.Life without Shanna has been one of the hardest things I ever had to face.Being a MOM to such a wonderful child and have her taken,has taken so much away from me. my normal life as I use to think it was is no longer normal anymore.I WAKE up without being able to hug my little girl and tell her I love her.seeing her on the school bus for the first time,not  knowing what she looks like now hurts so bad I Could scream.driving passed the grave yard & knowing your babies remains are there.breaks your heart into.PEOPLE Telling you they are  in a better place doesn't take the pain away,from wanting that place to be in your arms.Going on in your life as much as u are forced too,seeing your other child grow up with out a sister to share with is heart breaking having people look at you for being the one who lost their baby girl so traggic,makes me walk with my head down.Shanna made me see things that I could not see before she loved people know matter what,that girl made every one smile. she loved to go to her pap's church and sing her song this little light of mine..she always let it shine too..thinking about that right now makes me feel so good but sad at the same time that I can no longer here her sing it.Even though my little girl has been gone 6 years now I still like to share her with people.Some people have said to me,that I need to move on she is no longer part of my  life..she will always and forever be a part of my life.She may not be here for me to hold,or kiss goodnight.but she is a part of me..For every Mother who has lost a child knows each others pains.we know eachothers hearts like we read it in a book.for anyone who has not lost a child be thankful for the ones you do have ,even when they make you upset,or maybe they cry to much .,grasp a hold of it,you will miss all that if it ever had to leave.no longer complain about the little things in life,please thank God for the chance to have them little things,when the smallest thing is gone,just a laugh,or kiss,or hug will mean the world to you.when it is Gone.I miss her so much words can never tell how much . That is why I joined this site.to share her with all of you and for all of you to share with me.


Shanna life is so hard to bare without you here.
everyday we think about you and hold you so dear to our hearts.
what a blessing it is for you to be our daughter!
we love you so much .It is so hard to know that you are Gone from us.
We cannot wait to see you again someday. Shanna I try so hard.to stay on the path to get there. every since you left me .Its been hard to walk this road.Everything I do . I think about you. Every time I cry I remember your smile,how it always lifted me up when I was down.
I love you angel.. missing you so much ...






How can I not miss this little angel of mine.
everytime I look at her I see the light in her eyes.
Oh angel I cry all the time. I want u here with me
so I can hold you and see how big you got.
it is not Fair to me that I have to live without you .
I see kids all the time. that remind me of you . and I look at there
parents and think man how lucky they are.
Shanna I will never forget my love. I miss you more and more everyday











"What Is Normal After Your Childs Death"


Normal is having tears waiting behind every smile when you realize someone important is missing from all the important events in your family's life.

Normal for me is trying to decide what to take to the cemetery for Birthdays Christmas, Thanksgiving, New Years, Valentine's Day, July 4th and Easter.

Normal is feeling like you know how to act and are more comfortable with a funeral than a wedding or birthday party...yet feeling a stab of pain in your heart when you smell the flowers and see the casket.

Normal is feeling like you can't sit another minute without getting up and screaming, because you just don't like to sit through anything.

Normal is not sleeping very well because a thousand what if's & why didn't I's go through your head constantly.

Normal is reliving that day continuously through your eyes and mind, holding your head to make it go away.

Normal is having the TV on the minute I walk into the house to have noise, because the silence is deafening.

Normal is staring at every little girl who looks like she is my baby's age. And then thinking of the age she would be now and not being able to imagine it. Then wondering why it is even important to imagine it, because it will never happen.

Normal is every happy event in my life always being backed up with sadness lurking close behind, because of the hole in my heart.

Normal is telling the story of Shanna’s death as if it were an everyday, commonplace activity, and then seeing the horror in someone's eyes at how awful it sounds. And yet realizing it has become a part of my "normal".

Normal is each year coming up with the difficult task of how to honor your child's memory and her birthday and survive these days. And trying to find the balloon or flag that fit's the occasion. Happy Birthday? “Not really”.

Normal is my heart warming and yet sinking at the sight of something special my baby loved. Thinking how she would love it, but how she is not here to enjoy it.

Normal is having some people afraid to mention Shanna

Normal is making sure that others remember her.

Normal is after the funeral is over everyone else goes on with their lives, but we continue to grieve our lossShanna forever.

Normal is weeks, months, and years after the initial shock, the grieving gets worse, not better.

Normal is not listening to people compare anything in their life to this loss, unless they too have lost a child. NOTHING. Even if your child is in the remotest part of the earth away from you - it doesn't compare. Losing a parent is horrible, but having to bury your own child is unnatural.

Normal is taking pills, and trying not to cry all day, because I know my mental health depends on it.

Normal is realizing I do cry everyday.

Normal is disliking jokes about death or funerals, bodies being referred to as cadavers, when you know they were once someone's loved one.

Normal is being impatient with everything and everyone, but someone stricken with grief over the loss of your child.

Normal is sitting at the computer crying, sharing how you feel with chat buddies who have also lost a child.

Normal is a new friendship with another grieving mother, talking and crying together over our children and our new lives.

Normal is not listening to people make excuses for God. "God may have done this because..." I love God, I know that my baby is in heaven, but hearing people trying to think up excuses as to why healthy babies were taken from this earth is not appreciated and makes absolutely no sense to this grieving mother.

Normal is being too tired to care if you paid the bills, cleaned the house, did laundry or if there is any food.

Normal is wondering this time whether you are going to say you have two children or one, because you will never see this person again and it is not worth explaining that my baby is in heaven. And yet when you say you have one child to avoid that problem, you feel horrible as if you have betrayed Shanna

Normal is avoiding McDonald's and Burger King playgrounds because of small, happy little girls that break your heart when you see them.

Normal is asking God why he took your child's life instead of yours and asking if there even is a God.

Normal is knowing I will never get over this loss, in a day or a million years.

And last of all, Normal is hiding all the things that have become "normal" for you to feel, so that everyone around you will think that you are "normal".

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  NEWS paper clips.                                             


Shanna Renee Daugherty, of Brownsville, was making big plans last month to celebrate her third birthday on Aug. 20.

"She told us she wanted a Melmo cake ... that's how she pronounced her favorite character, Elmo," said her mother, Beverly, scanning several photographs of Shanna.

Shanna also would have worn her favorite high-top black boots; there would have been a lot of singing, including her favorite hymn, and lots of balloons.

Instead, family and friends will gather Aug. 20 to celebrate the toddler's life with a noon memorial service at Way of Life Apostolic Church in Isabella.

In the first interview since a horrific shooting accident claimed their daughter's life, Beverly and Fred Daugherty said they struggle every day trying to understand what happened.

"It's horrible ... It's the worst thing I've ever been through in my entire life," Beverly Daugherty said.

"I miss her so much ... sorry, I just can't talk about it," said Fred, who broke into tears before excusing himself from the dining room.

Shanna Daugherty was accidentally shot and killed outside the family home at 17 Hummell St. when her father was attempting to shoot a raccoon that had been menacing the neighborhood for weeks.

"The message I want to get out there with this is love your kids every day ... hug them and hold them. You never know what's going to happen," Beverly Daugherty said.

She said the neighborhood had been experiencing problems with raccoons for weeks during daylight and evening, and some fear they are rabid.

"Everyone around here has been having trouble for weeks with raccoons, and a neighbor across the street telephoned Fred that night and said there was a raccoon on the front porch. He grabbed his (.22-caliber) rifle from the gun rack, made sure Shanna was still inside behind the door and went outside," Beverly Daugherty said.

"When Fred went out, the raccoon stood up out of the garbage can just off the porch and hissed at him ... when he pointed ... somehow Shanna ran out in front" as Fred fired, Beverly Daugherty said.

Shanna Daugherty was pronounced dead about 1 1/2 hours after the 9 p.m. shooting at Children's Hospital of Pittsburgh in Oakland, where she was airlifted. She has been shot in the head.

Daugherty said a few days before the accident she was awakened in the family home by the couple's 7-year-old daughter, Cheyenne, who was scared because there was a "big rat looking in the window from the porch."

"I thought Cheyenne was kidding, but I went down to the living room and there was a big raccoon, sitting on top of the air conditioner in the morning. There was something wrong with them," Daugherty said.

She said the raccoons are still in the neighborhood.

Fayette County District Attorney Nancy Vernon said authorities do not intend to file charges against Fred Daugherty because there was no criminal intent.

Cheyenne and her mother were not at home when the shooting occurred. They were attending a church service at Way of Life Apostolic Church, where Beverly Daugherty plays the piano.

"Shanna wanted to come to church that night too. She just loved to go to church to sing ... her favorite song was 'That little light of mine ... I'm going to let it shine' ... it was so cute," Daugherty said.

But Shanna also loved being with her father and they both had plans to visit some cousins that evening, Beverly Daugherty said.

"I wish every day I would have taken her with me. But she loved being with her father," Beverly Daugherty said.

She admitted the accident has shaken her faith.

"It is very difficult, but you've got to press on. You've got to believe there is a God out there somewhere," she said.

After church, when she drove on Elm Street in the South Side of the borough toward Hummell Street and saw the emergency vehicles, she thought a motorist had struck a child.

"Then someone came up and told me, "Bev ... you've got to keep your faith. Fred shot Shanna ... " she said.

"I just fell over and hit my head on the street. When I woke up ... I said OK what's going on? ... I still couldn't believe it. I know Fred would never hurt Shanna," Daugherty said.

Daugherty said police would not allow Fred to accompany Cheyenne and her to the hospital because they wanted to question him.

"That was hard having no one there when they told you your daughter is dead. I understand police have work to do, but it was so hard," she said.

"We were praying so hard ... I thought God would hear me. The doctor there even started to cry when Cheyenne told him, 'That's OK, Jesus is Shanna's doctor now.' He couldn't believe it," Mrs. Daugherty said.

Cheyenne made her parents take down the family pool in the front yard that she enjoyed with Shanna so much. "She said if Shanna isn't here to swim with me, she didn't want it," Daugherty said.

The family is staying with Beverly Daugherty's parents in nearby Hiller.

"We're in the process of moving ... there's too much death around here," she said.

Fred Daugherty visits his daughter's grave at Lafayette Memorial Park, near Grindstone, every day at 7 a.m. The couple has attempted counseling to try to get over the grief.

"But Fred starts shaking every time he tries to talk about it. It's really difficult. I can forgive, but I can't forget it," she said.

"I remember our wedding vows ... for better or worse and this is the worse," she said.

Police confiscated Fred Daughterty's guns that night, but he never wants them back, his wife said.

"He used to love going deer hunting, but after we had the kids years ago he lost interest in hunting. He was devoted to the kids," she said.

"Police asked if we had a relative we want to give the guns to. But Fred told them he doesn't want them to go to any family member either," she said.

"Shanna used to sleep with one eye closed and one open. She was just so precious ... I want people to know that," Daugherty said.

The Daughertys said the family has been overwhelmed by the outpouring of sympathy from the community and from around the world.

"There were condolences from as far away as Australia," said Beverly Daugherty's sister, Linda.

The memorial service will include Shanna's favorite hymns and a balloon release.


 The story of what happened.                                                                     

Charges unlikely in shooting death of girl, 2
Darted in front of dad as he fired at raccoon
Thursday, July 14, 2005
By Jonathan D. Silver and Nate Guidry, Pittsburgh Post-Gazette

A Fayette County man aiming his rifle at a raccoon fatally shot his 2-year-old daughter, who darted in front of the gun in what the local district attorney termed a "horrible, horrific accident."

District Attorney Nancy D. Vernon said yesterday she did not intend to press charges against Fred Daugherty of Brownsville in the death of Shanna Daugherty unless blood test results showed his decision-making was impaired by alcohol or drugs.

Vernon said she did not anticipate such a finding.

"At this point, I don't see anything to lead me to believe there was criminal activity involved. Until the evidence would point me in that direction, we don't intend to label this anything more than a horrible, horrific accident," Vernon said.

"There's a large supportive family behind him. There's no indication that he had any problem with his children or had any intent to inflict any injury on her," Vernon said.

The incident happened Tuesday about 9 p.m. Daugherty reportedly went to shoot a raccoon rummaging in the garbage of his Hummel Street home following local reports of a possibly rabid animal in the neighborhood.

Vernon said Shanna was not with Daugherty when he exited his house with the gun but appeared when he pulled the trigger. She was unsure when Shanna left the house and came on the scene. The rest of the family -- Daugherty's wife and at least one other child -- were at church, Vernon said.

"Mr. Daugherty took a rifle to shoot the raccoon. His young daughter then stepped in front of the gun from behind, ran in front of it, similar to darting in front of a car," Vernon said.

A neighbor provided an account consistent with Daugherty's, and physical evidence found at the scene supported the story, Vernon said.

Shanna was taken to Children's Hospital, where she died at 10:39 p.m. Tuesday. Daugherty was in custody at the time.

The Allegheny County coroner's office, which issued the death certificate, said the girl died from a gunshot wound of the head.

"He was extremely upset. He grabbed the child. He was running for help and someone called 911. He was insistent on going with his child to the hospital, but we detained him," Vernon said.

Brownsville Police Chief Stan Jablonsky said the incident is under investigation but declined further comment yesterday afternoon.

Brooke Gunsallus, who lives across the street from the Daugherty home, said he pulled into his driveway within minutes of the shooting.

"I came in from work and all I could hear was screaming," said Gunsallus.

At that point, he said he phoned 911, then tried to apply first aid to the toddler and waited until paramedics arrived.

"Fred was hysterical while all this was going on," Gunsallus said. "It was an accident."

Gunsallus said the residents in the area have had problems with rodents, raccoons and wild turkeys.

"He was trying to pop one and you don't think anything like that would happen."

"That's a tremendous burden to carry," said Charlotte Hill, a neighbor that has known the Daughertys since they moved into the neighborhood more than four years ago. "He loved his family."

Ten-year-old Nicole Bernot said she was a "mess" when she heard that Shanna had been shot.

"She was pretty and a lot of fun," said Bernot. "We would talk to each other and sometimes we played in the pool."













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WISH I WAS THERE TO ENJOY THE HAPPINESS YOU MADE   / HEATHER SHUMAR (COUSIN)
SHANNA THIS IS YOUR COUSIN HEATHER THAT YOU DID NOT KNOW AND I REGRET NOT BEING ABLE TO SPEND ANYTIME WITH YOU I TALK TO MOMMY ALMOST EVERYDAY SHE MISSES YOU SO MUCH I CANT BEGIN TO FEEL HER PAIN YOU ARE AN ANGEL NOW GUIDE HER WITH THE SAME LOVE YOU ...  Continue >>
Thinking of you and your family   / Jo-Ann Pacenta Lauren's Mom (Mom of an angel )
letter to u   / Beverly Daugherty (Mother.)
BABY GIRL,
mommy,will never forget you,I still think about you everyday of my life. I just cannot believe that you will be turning 7 this year oh how I wish i could see you blow out your candles ,and open a gift. I love you..I wonder how long y...  Continue >>
I still miss u .   / Bev Daugherty (Mommy)
IT DOES NOT MATTER THE YEARS THAT HAVE PAST.i STILL MISS U sO VERY MUCH . Wow where has the time Gone.I wish so much that you were Hear with me .I know that is not the way it is . But it is the way i wish it was. When i take ur sister to parties and ...  Continue >>
a heavenly birthday party   / Goldie Campbell (aunt)
   (  mommy ) just want to say to you that im still thinking about you daddy and sissy as you know i have a birthday comming up  were havin a heavenly birthday party up here wish you all can be here to enjoy it with me&n...  Continue >>
broken hearted  / Goldie Campbell (aunt)    Read >>
We Remember Them  / Karen Hall (Kassie Hall's mom )    Read >>
Thoughts and prayers for you and your family  / Susana Regan (angelfamilies)    Read >>
JUST FOR YOU PRECIOUS LIL SHANNA WITH LOVE  / LaRaine Mom To Angel Cynthia Hernandez (Visitor)    Read >>
Sorry for you loss  / Gail S. (none)    Read >>
Thinking Of You Shanna On Your Angelversary  / Denise Kneale (connected by angels )    Read >>
We still miss you sooo much!  / AndieLynn Nicklow (Cousin)    Read >>
adorable little angel  / Sandi (none)    Read >>
WHat can I do  / Beverly Daugherty (mommy)    Read >>
He there Baby  / Beverly Daugherty (Mommy)    Read >>
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Her legacy
dying inside  
Something so hard
goes straight to the soul;
it seems impossible to get over
and my heart is left with a big hole.

I'm trying to be happy, wearing a smile;
but I'm dying inside.
The world seems to be fading,
and I just want to run and hide.

Everywhere I go I see your face,
and realize how much I miss you;
and on the day you died
a piece of me died too.
I will never forget you !  
Shanna  I just want to write here because this is Your site .I want you to know that  I have not forgot about you ..There is not a day that goes by that I do not think about you .Your smile and Your hugs and Kisses.I want you to know that You MUST HAVE really had a talk with Jesus ..because he has been helping me .I have realized so many things.And I am thankful for that .I remember when I first Lost you the Pain that was like a knife in my heart .someone came to me and said God will mend your heart again .And he has mended alot of it . there will always be that piece missing and that is you !I can talk about you now without going crazy .I will let you live on in our heart forever and ever. there are days I wish I can wake up and see your face hug your neck and play with you . I have learned that life has no age limit you can be called at any time .I want to make it to see you Baby .still missing you as much as i did the Day i lost you .love Mommy
Loving you forever  
I am Missing you so very much ,I just cannot stop thinking of you !went over to your aunt Dindins and she had some really nice pictures of you ,and all I could do was cry for you beauty and your smile is so very much missed!I BEEN HAVING SO MUCH ON MY MIND ABOUT YOU WISHING I COULD ,,MAKE THIS NIGHTMARE GO AWAY .YOU ARE A TURE ANGEL YOU WAS BORN A ANGEL THE LOVE YOU HAD WAS SO GREAT AND THE WAY YOU STOLE OUR HEARTS.TODAY SISSY WAS CRYING ASKING WHY SHE HAD TO BE ALONE ALL THE TIME ,WHY SHE HAS NO SISSY TO PLAY WITH ,I FEEL SO BAD WHEN SHE DOES THAT ,NOONE CAN EVER COMPARE YTO YOU ,YOU ALL LOVED EACHOTHER SO MUCH AND YOU PLAYED TOGETHER SO WELL !BABY I LOVE YOU SO MUCH AND ALL THE WORDS I CAN WRITE RIGHT NOW CAN NEVER TAKE THE PLACE OF YOU !MOMMY WANYTED TO WRITE THIS TO DAY TO LET YOU KNOW YOU ARE STILL ALWAYS ON MY MIND .!I LOVE YOU SHANNA!
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WHOEVER DID THIS PICTURE FOR ME THANKS SO MUCH.THIS PICTURE LOOK LIKE ME WHEN I WAS A LITTLE ONE .. SHE IS SO SO CUTE ..THANKS FOR DOING IT AGAIN AND GOD BLESS YOU ..  

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i had another site for shanna until i found this one .. i did .. if you all would like to look at it as well it is..www.freewebs.com/never_alone_2005
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